The guidelines provided here are the backbone to creating trusting relationships with ourselves and others.
Trust is fundamental to our wellbeing, a place where we feel safe and secure. It means being confident in our selves and others, feeling we are dependable. It also means being able to believe in and make a commitment to something.
Boundaries help us let the good stuff in and keep the bad stuff out. The stuff could bring; certain people, experiences, information, emotional states and more. Lack of proper boundaries, by not being clear with our selves or others can damage trust and relationships.
Reliability involves doing what we say we’re going to do, when we say we’re going to do it. It includes being aware of our strengths and limitations and aligning our acts. This doesn’t mean we can’t change our promises, but we can communicate clearly what we are going to do and not going to do.
Accountability is taking ownership of our own actions and any mistakes we may make and therefore apologising for them and make amends.
Vault is a room built of steel, for the safekeeping of valuables. Being a vault, means people can keep their valuables with you and you will keep them safe. It involves not sharing experiences that aren’t ours to share. You keep my secrets and the secrets of others. When you tell me other people’s secrets, you are essentially showing me how you could tell my secrets.
Integrity is our actions matching our words. Choosing courage over comfort, what is right over what is easiest. Practicing our values and beliefs rather than simply saying them.
Non-judgmental means refraining from judging our self and others. I can ask for what I need and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgment or criticism.
Generosity is extending the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words and actions of others. This is assuming the best of others.